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David I. Brandt, LCSW, LLC

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Posted on October 1, 2013 at 9:23 AM
Showing Up

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I have heard it said that "showing up is half the battle".  One can hold onto this thought in one's back pocket to help them move in the face of anticipatory fears and negative assumptions that might otherwise impede movement and stir up avoidance.  Examples of these impeding thoughts might be: I'll be bored, or, no one will like me, or, they'll think I'm trying to prove something, I'll be all alone, I won't know what to say, I'm too fat, etc.

Many I know often end up feeling fairly pleased that they went to a pre-scheduled (or unscheduled) event, despite not feeling much like going at all just ahead of the event, as their anticipations started to really ramp up.  It turned out not to be as bad as they thought,  nor anything like  what they had built up in their heads!  Indeed  it was even good  that they bumped into this or that person, or dispelled a myth that they had been holding onto about another or even about themselves.  Perhaps they had an excellent laugh or made a valued connection.  Maybe they simply got themselves out and felt good just for that!

Of course, sometimes canceling out or trusting a foreboding feeling about some plan can pay off as well. We get some emotional refueling, alone time, or avoid some real (and perhaps not so imagined) problem encounter, etc.

There is another essential aspect of this 'showing up' business: and that is the 'leap of faith' that on some level is always involved!  In other words, it takes a certain amount of trust and openness, along with a certain level of motivation, to believe in and actually make use of the adage 'showing up is half the battle'.  It may take unwinding some old traumas or having an evolution of small successes or other factors to begin to become more accustomed to trusting these words as a motivator of movement.  This may require some found support along the way.

Categories: Adages to Live By, Career, Financial Concerns, Motivational, Procrastination, Stuckness

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5 Comments

Reply Al
8:28 PM on October 2, 2013 
I remember reading a quote from Woody Allen saying how important just showing up was in his career.
Reply David Brandt
1:22 AM on October 3, 2013 
Interesting! Indeed that "showing up" attitude is probably a common trait amongst those who have "gone for it" and made it. Thanks for your remarks!
Reply Replica Watches
5:42 AM on October 7, 2013 
Very good article,Do you want to know more about it?I just do not tell you.
Reply Michele
1:10 AM on October 28, 2013 
I am in the field of higher education. Showing up is a concept I try to get across to my students all the time. Often, there will be students who aren't doing well in my class. Some become discouraged and stop showing up: they don't show up for class, they don't show up for meetings with me to discuss their difficulties, they don't show up for tutoring appointments I schedule for them at the school's tutoring center. Most of these students who don't show up invariably fail. The rest of the struggling students pass, not because they are necessarily smarter, or more capable, but because they keep showing up.
Reply David Brandt
2:09 AM on October 28, 2013 
Thank you Michelle! I love your example - it really helps illustrate the value of showing up!!