Psychoanalysis • Psychotherapy • Counseling
Tools & Insights
|Posted on October 1, 2013 at 9:23 AM|
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I have heard it said that "showing up is half the battle". One can hold onto this thought in one's back pocket to help them move in the face of anticipatory fears and negative assumptions that might otherwise impede movement and stir up avoidance. Examples of these impeding thoughts might be: I'll be bored, or, no one will like me, or, they'll think I'm trying to prove something, I'll be all alone, I won't know what to say, I'm too fat, etc.
Many I know often end up feeling fairly pleased that they went to a pre-scheduled (or unscheduled) event, despite not feeling much like going at all just ahead of the event, as their anticipations started to really ramp up. It turned out not to be as bad as they thought, nor anything like what they had built up in their heads! Indeed it was even good that they bumped into this or that person, or dispelled a myth that they had been holding onto about another or even about themselves. Perhaps they had an excellent laugh or made a valued connection. Maybe they simply got themselves out and felt good just for that!
Of course, sometimes canceling out or trusting a foreboding feeling about some plan can pay off as well. We get some emotional refueling, alone time, or avoid some real (and perhaps not so imagined) problem encounter, etc.
There is another essential aspect of this 'showing up' business: and that is the 'leap of faith' that on some level is always involved! In other words, it takes a certain amount of trust and openness, along with a certain level of motivation, to believe in and actually make use of the adage 'showing up is half the battle'. It may take unwinding some old traumas or having an evolution of small successes or other factors to begin to become more accustomed to trusting these words as a motivator of movement. This may require some found support along the way.